Manipulation is necessary. I usually get weird looks from clients when I say that and I can understand why. It has such a nasty connotation. As a culture, we focus on one meaning: “the action of manipulating someone in a clever or unscrupulous way.” but there is another: “the action of manipulating something in a skillful manner.” Link (in case you don’t believe me) We are all manipulative. From the minute we are born, we manipulate. We quickly learn that when we cry parents meet our needs and parents in meeting our needs cause us to stop crying. If not …